He said, "I've been on Match.com but I'm not meeting anyone wonderful.Same old thing. I haven't made a solid connection with anyone. It's just a waste of time. Nothing's happening."

Does any of this sound familiar? First of all, we can never say: Nothing's happening because something's ALWAYS happening - even if we can't see it or the evidence of it.

Years ago when I was going through a financial and romantic slump, I called on my sister-friend for advice. I shared all that was seemingly failing in my life. She listened. Then I went on to mention all the things I was doing to make it better, but nothing seemed to work. "When was it going to happen for me?" I probed her with questions like she was Miss Cleo with a crystal ball. "When is it my time to shine?" "I've been working so hard and I thought I did everything right... What the hell?!" She heard me as a good sister-friend would, then took a pause and said, "Picture a ladder." Oh great. What is she talking about? But I listened and tried to quiet my inner voice that was compelled to complain some more.

Picture a ladder. Do you see it? That ladder has rungs. Now picture yourself going up the ladder. With each step, going up each rung, you're attaining the realization of your dreams ie: the  career you've envisioned, the love of your life, a fit and healthy body, etc. - climbing upwards. However,before any of us gets to the next rung - what is there? Space in-between. We haven't landed anywhere yet, we're in process. This space in-between is golden. Before we get to our next achievement sometimes hings don't seem to be happening. Life will appear to be moving at as lower pace or not moving at all. We tend to question ourselves during the space in-between stage. We get impatient and at times, we want to give up. There's no need. This space in-between is just as valuable if not more so than achieving the actual goal. Why? Because this is where we  practice self-discovery, patience, the art of replenishing  (or as I like to call it, "constructive rest") and possibly creation. Most importantly, this is where we strengthen our resolve and faith within ourselves.Because even if we can't see it, something is always happening.

I've savored this great advice and hope you find a jewel in it, too. So the next time someone asks you - "What are you working on right now?" - and you feel foolish because you don't have a list of projects and wins to share, just say, "I'm working on the space in-between."